What’s the big deal about coaching?

Someone asked why are we are devoting the Second International Conference of Neuro-Semantics (Malaysia, 2013) to Coaching. He asked, “What’s the big deal about Coaching?”

Dr. Michael Hall replied, “The reason why is because what we call coaching is really about being a professional communicator which begins with really, really listening, and then enabling people to sense that we care about what they said and think, and then asking the kind of probing, penetrating, and incisive questions that can get to the heart of things quickly and powerfully. It also means listening and calibrating so precisely that you can mirror back their own responses so that people can actually hear and listen to themselves.”

Of course, in saying that, Dr. Michael Hall was really summarizing the seven core coaching skills that we train and benchmark in the Meta-Coaching System.

He continued, “And when you can do that, then with your communications you can manage, lead, interview, consult, and do many other things that are of high value in companies and organizations. And of course, you can coach, and you also have the foundational skills for counseling and psychotherapy. These are the essential skills that supervisor and managers and even senior managers need. They are the skills for selling, skills that anyone leading an organization needs in selling ideas and proposals. So that’s why.”

Another person asked, “Well, what about conflict? And when Dr. Michael Hall inquired a little further about what he meant, he said, “What about dealing with groups in conflict or even just with one person who is hard to get along with or lead, who is always complaining and bad-mouthing others?”

The conversation between Dr. Michael Hall and the person went on as follows …

“Well, yes. That’s where the mirroring skills really become powerful for constructive confrontation. First you calibrate to the person by receiving what they are saying, how they are saying it, and all of the non-verbal expressions that they use, then after some framing, you mirror it back so that the person can see and hear themselves- they can see and hear themselves as in a mirror, the mirror of your eyes.”

“And that works? They don’t get madder because of that?” “Would you like me to mirror that back to you? [“Yes, okay.”] And you are in a good enough state of mind and emotion to receive it? [“Yeah, sure.”] Then what I just heard you say in a questioning tone of voice that sounded like this, ‘And that works?’ And as you said it, your nose scrunched up like this (repeating what he saw) and your eyes went up like this (mirroring back what I saw) as you said, ‘And that works?’ (Pause) … Okay, so how was that?”

‘That was pretty good I guess. But, of course, I wasn’t upset in the first place.’
“Yes, I sensed that. And that is also why I asked the framing questions to make sure that you truly wanted the feedback and that you were ready for it.”
“Oh, that’s what you mean by framing!”

“Yes, as a communication process, framing enables the person or persons you speak to, to have a way of interpreting what you’re saying so that it serves and enhances the interaction. It gives them, in technical terms, an interpretative schema so that they will be much less likely to mis-interpret what you offer. And it’s one of the powerful tools that coach or any professional communicator uses. If what you have to say could be mis-interpreted, if it could ‘push a button’ and get someone upset or if it could be used against you later, framing helps to prevent that.”

“So that’s the big deal about coaching! It’s really just communication skills- it’s just a way to make yourself more clear and precise so that there’s less mis-understandings and confusion? Is that right?”
“Well, yes, although I wouldn’t use the word just as you did. It is so much more than ‘just communication skills,’ it is some of the highest and most advanced skills on this planet, the ability to create mental clarity and precision, to align people to a common vision, to excite and inspire people to step up to the possibilities of their potentials, and to take the quality of their experiences and their very lives to the peak of human possibilities … so it is so much more than just communication skills.

“Okay! When you put it like that – sign me up now.”

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Who will benefit from attending Meta-Coach (ACMC) Boot-Camp training?

Who will benefit from attending Meta-Coach (ACMC) Boot Camp training?

Meta-Coaching is for anyone who is passionate about supporting others in making permanent positive change, and who want to be at the forefront of human development in terms of Self-Actualization Psychology.

Specifically, Meta-Coaching is ideal for:

  • New coaches – Learn a powerful coaching model that you can use immediately.  The beauty of this adaptive model is that you can build on it as you grow, you gain more coaching experience, and your business grows.
  • Experienced coaches – Give your clients the benefits of the most progressive cutting-edge coaching techniques available anywhere.  Add more than 300 coaching patterns to your ‘tool box’ as you bring a  ‘Wow’ factor to your coaching.
  • NLP Practitioners and Master Practitioners – Discover how to package your skills in a profitable way that differentiates you in the marketplace.
  • Teachers and Trainers – Use the complimentary power of training and coaching as effective tools for the development of students at any age.
  • Individuals committed to personal development – Meta-Coaching allows you to actualize your highest and best in terms of your emotions and beliefs so that you can communicate more effectively, unleash your best potentials, and discover your passions.
  • Sports coaches – Meta-Coaching supports performance at the highest level.  It brings a profound understanding of what motivates a person to peak performance, and gives them the tools for sustained motivation and peak performance.
  • CEOs, entrepreneurs, managers and sales managers – Learn how to influence your employees to reach targets, achieve budget, overcome obstacles, and exceed Key Performance Indicators as you become a self-actualizing company.

Are you looking for a cutting-edge coaching methodology that transcends traditional Performance Coaching, taking both Coach and Client to higher levels– to Developmental and Transformational Coaching?

Join us in our next Meta-Coach (ACMC) Boot-Camp, which are being conducted internationally.

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What would I expect to gain from attending Meta-Coach ACMC Boot-Camp?

This advanced Meta-Coach (ACMC) Boot Camp training module involves more than 180 hours of coach-specific education. Ideal for those who want to become a Professional Coach and those committed to personal development and self-mastery.

This Coaching Boot Camp will equip you with cutting-edge skills and business strategies for coaching in any of the following coaching specialties.

  • Executive Coaching Coach coaching CEOs, leaders, and executives for optimum personal performance, motivational mastery, and outstanding business results.
  • Personal – Life Coaching Coach coaching individuals to take charge of their lives and transform their career, relationships, health, personal development, and spirituality.
  • Organizational – Group Coaching Coach coaching groups to become high performing teams.
  • Self-Coaching – Apply the coaching patterns to yourself for profound life transformation and personal mastery.

This eight-day training program is the Meta-Coach Boot Camp— intense, rigorous, and powerful to challenge you in your own self-actualization so you grow in the following three areas:

Your Authenticity as a Coach

  • You’ll emerge with a sharp, highly focused understanding of yourself and your life aspirations.
  • Your highest abilities and individual powers will be thrown into sharp relief; you will discover the place from which you will excel – and be empowered to coach with and from this authenticity.
  • You will learn how to balance life and work as you learn how to integrate training, consulting, therapy, and mentoring in a congruent way.

Coaching skills and mastery for you

  • You’ll gain the credibility and confidence from a thorough grounding in the most advanced cognitive behavioral coaching models in the field, including the Matrix Model and the Axes of Change Models.
  • ACMC accreditation licenses you to use Meta- Coaching methodologies and patterns with your clients.
  • Facilitate extraordinary results for your clients by knowing exactly what to do, how to do it, with whom, when, and why in the coaching context.
  • Facilitate clients in creating Business Plans with a comprehensive yet simple planning methodology.
  • Enjoy the confidence of knowing that your professional development is sustainable. You’ll learn advanced skills for benchmarking yourself and your clients for ongoing growth and development.

Coaching Business Intelligence for You

  • Embark on the exhilarating journey toward your dream business.  Gain the confidence and skills to build a highly-successful coaching practice that reflects your values and professional ethics to make your life ambitions come true.
  • Learn from people who are at the pinnacle of their profession.  Fast-track your own business by hearing, questioning, and replicating the practices of the expert coaches as you ask them about their marketing strategies, invaluable contacts, and business secrets.
  • Learn business models for marketing, how to charge, how to position and advertise yourself in the marketplace and more.
  • Grow your wealth. Learn how to create a coaching business that is both professionally and financially rewarding.

Are you ready for the 8 day Meta-Coach (ACMC) Boot Camp? Would you want to become a professional transformational Meta-Coach?

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What makes Meta-Coach (ACMC) Boot-Camp Training unique?

Academic rigor and practical application 

Meta-Coaching is the highest evolutionary state of two disciplines: Cognitive Behavioral and Self-Actualization Psychology. Meta-Coach Training has academic and intellectual integrity as well as practical coaching and business applications. Come and discover for yourself.

Coaching skills and business strategies.

The Communication Model of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) – an advanced communication model for precision and clarity.

The Self-Actualization psychology of Neuro- Semantics (NS) – a cutting-edge model for translating great ideas and meanings into muscle memory for achieving peak performances.

Comprehensive, competency-based training

You’ll undertake between 180 -510 hours of coaching- specific training. Other Coach Training courses average 50 –100 hours. The internationally recognized Meta-Coaching qualifications are stringently assessed and tested on an ongoing basis.

Modular training that’s fast and flexible

Meta-Coach Training is the most systematic Coach training in the world. A modular structure allows you to process through units or levels of accreditation right up to the level of Master Meta-Coach Certification at a pace that suits you.  It allows you to complete modules of training that are immediately relevant to your life and/or business – then build on your qualifications as your confidence, experience and business develop.

Learn from Master Coaches

At every Meta-Coach training we interview Expert Coaches for you to model – professional coaches who have reached the pinnacle of their profession.  This will enable you to learn from the Expert Coaches who specialize in the fields of Executive, Personal, Business, Group and Team Coaching, etc.

Ongoing support and development 

A ‘buddy’ system, group mentoring, benchmarking tools for self-assessment and access to expert coaches throughout and beyond the training ensure you are supported to excel.  You’ll join an International Community of highly successful, highly creative people. You’ll have access to ongoing releases of the latest research and development.

Take what you need for your life 

While full Master Meta-Coach certification is not for everyone, you can build invaluable results-focused coaching skills by completing just Modules 1 and 2.

Contact us to find out more about the Meta-Coach Training System.

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Introducing Meta-Coaching (part 1)

Introducing Meta-Coaching (part 1)
Getting the Core of Coaching Right
L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.

Everything called “coaching” isn’t coaching and everyone who calls him or herself a “coach” isn’t a coach.  It takes a lot more than merely naming yourself a coach and what you do as coaching to make it so.  Branding alone is completely insufficient to establish a solid foundation for these things.  Yet today there’s lots of confusion about coaches and coaching.  There are lots of pseudo-coaching and pseudo-coaches.  There are probably tens-of-thousands of so-called Coaches who are presenting things that are not coaching at all.  So, what is the real thing?

In 2001 when I began, one of the conversations that I had with Michelle Duval was about this, “What is coaching?  What are the factors that make coaching coaching?  How can we best define coaching?  At that time we identified five factors (which is still in the book, Coaching Change): 1) conversation, 2) self-reflexive conversation that gets to the heart of things, 3) creates generative change 4) systemically which 5) all serves the purposes of self-actualization.  It was later that we added 6) implementation that executes the desired outcome as a plan and gets results which can be measured and 7) facilitation and specifically process facilitation of these processes.

Recently I looked at these things with another prism, namely, what you have to get right in order to have effective coaching that is true to what coaching truly is.  Here is what you have to get right for effective coaching:
(1)  You have to get your Psychology right.
(2)  You have to get your Objective right.
(3)  You have to get the Change right.
(4)  You have to get your Epistemology right.
(5)  You have to get your Conversations right.

For details of the above five aspects, please read Introducing Meta-Coaching (part 2)

What then is Meta-Coaching?
It is a conversation like none other that gets to the heart of things— the heart of a matter to facilitate generative, transformative change by activating and mobilizing a client’s internal resources thereby empowering the person as we confront his or her highest visions and values to support them making real their inner potentials.

As such, Meta-Coaching is an intense, intimate, and fierce conversation to actualize new possibilities.

Introducing Meta-Coaching (part 2)

Introducing Meta-Coaching (part 2)

Introducing Meta-Coaching (part 2)
Getting the Core of Coaching Right
L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.

… continuation from Introducing Meta-Coaching (part 1).
Here is what you have to get right for effective coaching:
(1)   You have to get your Psychology right.
(2)  You have to get your Objective right.
(3)  You have to get the Change right.
(4)  You have to get your Epistemology right.
(5)  You have to get your Conversations right.

First and foremost — You have to get your Psychology right.
Coaching (and not consulting, mentoring, therapy, and training) is based on the psychology of the bright side of human nature— on Self-Actualization Psychology.  Why?  Because coaching is for the psychological healthy.  It is for those ready to embrace change that will disturb the equilibrium of life.  The market and the population for coaching is the well who are ready to be challenged and stretched.  This distinguishes coaching from therapy which is for those who are not psychologically healthy and who need to get out of the past, become okay, and develop the ego-strength to be challenged and stretched for embracing new generative changes.

Second, you have to get your Objective right.
The objective of coaching is to facilitate the processes for unleashing potentials to enable a client to self-actualize.  That’s why a coach is not the content expert, a coach is a process expert.  That’s why a true coach elicits the client’s agenda to find out what the subject and content of the coaching will be able.  A true coach enables the client to set the agenda and facilitates it by co-creating it with the client.  This distinguishes coaching from consulting, training, and mentoring.  In those professions, you are the content expert and you know what the client needs.  Not so in coaching.   In coaching, you do not know what the client needs.  And even the client most often doesn’t know what he or she needs.  That’s why you when you get this objective right, you also get your first and last questions as a coach.  First question: What do you want?   Last question: Did you get it?  By getting the coach’s objective right you also ask about how the client will know when he or she has achieved the desired outcome?  Ah yes, the last question of the well-formed outcome questions, the KPI question about knowing.  And that allows you to ask the measurement question: How will you measure the change?

Third, you have to get the Change right.
In coaching, the change that we facilitate is generative change, not remedial change.  Remedial change is therapeutic change— finding and giving remedies for what’s ailing a person.  That kind of change enables a person to get over the past, come into the present, become okay, and be ready for the future.  Not so in coaching.   In coaching it is all about generative change and this kind of change can occur at numerous levels: behavioral, evolutionary, transformative.  And because it does, this giving us three forms of coaching: performance, developmental, and transformative coaching.  Generative change also involves unlearning because what very often the very knowledge and skills that got a client to where he or she now is will not take them further.  In fact, it might positively prevent the client from developing the new learnings that are needed to move on.   So you coach to the client’s unlearning.  And that’s where the Crucible Model shines the best.

Fourth, you have to get your Epistemology right.
The epistemology of coaching is systemic thinking and responding and it is work systemically with the client’s self-reflexive consciousness.  After all, that’s what coaching is—coaching is systemic and holistic, it is not linear.  Linear thinking sees things only partially as it focuses on parts rather than the whole and it dichotomizes rather than work holistically and simultaneously.  This then leads to short-term superficial solutions that jumps on presenting problems without in-depth probing.  That’s why you use the Matrix model in coaching and the Meta-States model as you work with the client’s self-reflexivity.  (Refer to Meta-Coaching Volume IX: Systemic Coaching.)

Fifth, you have to get your Conversations right.
A coaching conversation is not the ordinary kind of chat that people experience have everyday at the breakfast table, the work cafeteria, and in pubs.  It is not an advice-giving conversation, not a therapeutic conversation, and not storytelling conversation.   It is an intense dialogue for the purpose of discovery and unleashing.  It is an intimate and fierce conversation.  In Meta-Coaching we have identified the seven kinds of Coaching Conversations: clarity, decision, planning, experiencing, change, confrontation, and mediation.

Coaching Facets           Meta-Coaching Models
Psychology                         Self-Actualization Psychology; SA Assessment Scale; SA Matrix; SA Quadrants
Objective                            WFO; Benchmarking; Fierce Conversation; Facilitation
Change                                Axes of Change ; Crucible Model
Epistemology                    Matrix Model — Systemic and Self-Reflexive; Meta-States ; Meta-Programs
Conversation                     NLP Model; 7 Kinds of Conversations

What then is Meta-Coaching?
It is a conversation like none other that gets to the heart of things— the heart of a matter to facilitate generative, transformative change by activating and mobilizing a client’s internal resources thereby empowering the person as we confront his or her highest visions and values to support them making real their inner potentials.
As such, Meta-Coaching is an intense, intimate, and fierce conversation to actualize new possibilities.

Learn more about the benefits of Coaching.